Welcome to Debbie Ballard's Transgender Information Site.

 Deborah Ballard aka Debbie Lawrence is a transgender woman with nearly 40 years of IT experience, nearly 40 years of transformational programs including 12 step programs, leadership training programs, open source support groups, transgender support groups and websites.  Debbie has written 6 books on transgender issues, so far.

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Too often, society and even therapists tend to focus on only one dimension of the transgender person, I came up with this matrix to help people understand the broader dimensions of transgender people.







0-Cisgender homosocial, alpha, popular Aggressive, violent, bullying, Extreme cases become criminals. Sexist, Elitist,views opposite sex as inferior. Excessively masculine or feminine, conforming to birth gender. Views opposite sex as playthings, objects, or alien creatures. Very comfortable with birth gender, threatened by those who aren't
1 – Stealthy beta, friendly, heterosocial, mix of friends, boys and girls. Friendly but withdrawn around alphas of their gender. plays games with both genders, enjoys both. may dress in a few items of the opposite sex, privately. Mild, mostly normal, bullying usually limited and infrequent.
2 – Masked beta, mostly heterosocial, most friends are opposite sex, close friends of same sex. Isolated, socializes when needed, but avid reader, games, private activities. Intelligent, prefers company of opposite gender, enjoys company of same gender. limited sexuality, confused, occasional cross-dressing, limited in scope, usually private or descreet. Mild dysphoria, frequently bullied, puts on “Act” to prevent abuse (clown, smart, goofy)
3 – Emerging Most friends are opposite sex, only a few friends of same sex. Isolated, avoids recreational activities and sports, avoids, same-sex activities most. Isolated, avoids social interaction with same sex peers, avid reader, often trying to figure out EVERYTHING because nothing makes sense. Isolated sexuality, may even avoid sex with partners, cross-dressing for both sexual and nonsexual satisfaction. May dress for extended periods privately. Severe, struggles with attempts to emulate birth gender, chameleon, evasive, deceptive. Dislikes birth gender but struggling with the idea of transition.
4 – Public Nearly all friends are opposite sex, same sex relationships may be romantic. Isolated, mood swings, unusual wisdom, avid reader, researcher, seeks to understand people. Refuses to participate in same-sex athletics, especially team sports. Everything seems unreal, isolated even in a crowd, focused, studies same sex & opposite sex. May act or dress more like opposite gender.
May be gender fluid, doing both masculine and feminine things in behavior and appearance.
Avoids sexual and romantic encounters with partners. Dislikes being recipient, dislikes genitalia. Masturbation fantasies are as the opposite sex. Self-abusive, genital mutilation, binding, tucking, drugs, alcohol, suicidal, dare-devil, doesn't care about dying, but not actively persuing.
5 – Transsexual Very few friends, nearly all friends are opposite sex. Avoids contact with same sex, except maybe romantically. Until transition, isolated, alone, socially “retarded”, rude, intellectual bully, lonely. Until transition, almost autistic, depressed, lethargic, argumentitive, drives people away. Pre-transition – sexually giving, but derives little or no satisfaction as receiver. Avoids sex. Critical – suicidal and secretive, drug addiction, alcoholism, overeating, high risk behaviors, often without telling anyone about the pain they feel has been ignored.
6 – During Transition After starting transition, more social, more friendly, more fun to be around, more friends. Very social, especially with other opposite sex people. Enjoys flirting, socialization, and cares about people. Friendly, outgoing, caring, compassionate, kind, loving, able to experience love. Sexually generous and enjoys receiving, often adventurous and creative, may enjoy sex with more kinds of partners, bisexuals may start gravitating toward opposite sex of their target gender. Much happier, enjoys life, enjoys people, service oriented, helps others. More interested in health, fitness, and staying healthy and happy.
6 – Post Transition homosocial with target gender, popular, friendly with both genders. Outgoing, pleasant, polite, happy, supportive, kind, enjoys a happy life more like a cisgender person of the target gender. Consider themselves their target gender, more like cisgender member of the opposite sex. A bit stealthy about previous life. Genuinely cares about both genders, treats partners as special gifts, generously return love when given. May struggle with PTSD, fear that they will have to go back, grieving lost youth in wrong gender.. Generally much happier and healthier, may even look and act younger.